How to turn a boring conversation into a hot date
When it comes to dating, there is nothing more miserable than a date going obviously nowhere. Be it from a lack of discussion with interesting topics, or just a lack of good communication skills from one or both parties; when the conversation comes to a screeching halt, all that’s left is two strangers awkwardly trying to make things work. At that point, it’s just not worth it to keep going.
This issue of holding boring conversations doesn’t just affect your date; it also applies when you are with friends, coworkers, or even an escort for hire. In general, good communication is very important. It’s through an interesting conversation wherein two people – on a date in this instance – can find a connection, and show further interest and intrigue for one another. This, of course, can result in a fun time for you both. Perhaps, it can even lead to something more… romantic, per se. So, make sure to follow these tips and avoid turning the conversation into something boring.
Expand your horizons
In order to facilitate a good conversation, you have to possess a wide array of things to discuss. Talking about the weather can only carry you so far; you have to pull more intriguing topics based on your experiences and opinions. Not only is it better to know anything about everything, it’s also a way to add a personal spice to your words. So go and experience new things. Entertain yourself with a new hobby, or try something different every now and then.
Show interest and listen intently
Remember that it’s not just you participating in the date. At some point, you will run out of things to discuss. If this happens to you, and you want the conversation to keep going, the best way to continue is to engage and show interest in what your date has to say. They have their own experiences they will want to share, and listening can help you form an opinion of them. You might even learn a new thing or three. If you think you have many things in common together, then that’ll make you two want each other even more.
Avoid “yes/no” questions
Asking questions where the only answers are either “yes” or “no” doesn’t lead to anything more exciting. It shuts down any further discussion regarding the matter. Try to rephrase the question into something more open-ended. It doesn’t matter how simple the first question; their answer will be new information that you can use to formulate another question. Rinse and repeat, and the next thing you know, the both of you have asked each other multiple revealing questions without either feeling awkward and exhausted.
Observe your surroundings
A date doesn’t occur in a vacuum; there are multiple aspects in play that can help you find topics to discuss. Talking about the weather is overtly cliché and played out, so opt for something more specific to your circumstance. Like, say, talk about the place you’re in – talk about the food, the service, the ambience, etc. Or maybe talk about their current appearance – their hairstyle, their apparel, their accessories, etc. It will make this date a one-of-a-kind memory, something only unique to this moment.
“Boring” is probably a worse adjective to describe a date than anything else. Because it means that your encounter was brain numbing and not worth remembering. However, your date doesn’t have to lead to nowhere. Make the conversation interesting; that’s the one spice your date will always need.